Referring to 'Find Your Person'

Find Your Person is a psychology-led group programme for high-functioning, insight-rich women whose dating patterns don't match the rest of their lives — they know their psychology, but it's not translating into how they date. It draws on CBT's structured, action-oriented approach alongside attachment theory and schema-informed concepts to help women move from reactive to intentional in dating, with tools they can apply in real time.

Two cohorts have now completed the programme, with consistent outcomes around pattern recognition and relational confidence — and that pattern recognition is changing the trajectory of their dating journey.

Led by an HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist. Designed as a complement to therapy, not a replacement.

Who Find Your Person is for

Find Your Person is designed for:

  • Professional women in their 30s+ who are functioning well in life but feel stuck, confused, or burnt out by dating
  • Often successful in work, friendships, or other areas of life
  • Who feel stuck, discouraged, or drained by dating, despite trying hard
  • Who want a more intentional, grounded, psychologically informed approach to meeting a partner

Many women who take part are reflective, thoughtful, and used to functioning well — and feel confused or frustrated that dating hasn’t followed the same trajectory.

This programme is not about fixing people or telling them they’re “doing dating wrong”. It focuses on understanding patterns with compassion, building confidence and clarity, and supporting women to date in ways that feel aligned and sustainable.

What Participants Say

"I understand my patterns now, especially around limerence, and I can pull myself back before things get too intense. That shift alone has been a game-changer." — Emma
"I'm trusting myself so much more. I'm no longer minimising my needs or blaming myself when someone can't meet them — I feel grounded and confident in what I want." — LJ
"I used the tools in real time, and it genuinely changed how I approached dating. The group felt collaborative and so well held."

  

— Em

 Psychological Framework

While Find Your Person is not therapy, it draws on a robust psychological foundation, including:

  • The structured, collaborative, and practical principles of CBT
  • Attachment- and schema-informed thinking around relationship patterns
  • A compassion-focused lens, particularly for working with self-criticism and shame
  • Kate’s extensive clinical experience supporting issues that commonly show up in dating: patterns of over-giving, avoidance, self-doubt, emotional burnout, and repeated relational loops

 The focus is on helping participants move from insight into practical, real-world change in how they approach dating and relationships. 

 

About Dr Kate Sherratt

Find Your Person is led by Dr Kate Sherratt, an HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist with 17 years’ experience across NHS, academic, and private practice settings. Kate brings both clinical depth and genuine personal relatability to this work — and has navigated these patterns herself.

Alongside her clinical work, Kate has held senior teaching and facilitation roles within university and doctoral training programmes, including:

  • Expert-level CBT teaching, including leading postgraduate programmes at the University of Reading
  • Teaching and facilitation on the Clinical Psychology Doctorate at UCL, including reflective practice groups
  • Extensive experience facilitating groups with care, clarity, and psychological depth

This means the programme is led by someone who combines clinical expertise with strong teaching skill, and who is experienced in holding groups that are structured, well-boundaried, and emotionally safe — particularly for clients working on relational patterns.

You can read more about her professional background here:
www.drkatesherratt.com/about 

When to Refer

This programme may be helpful for clients who:

• feel stuck in recurring dating or relationship patterns
• have developed insight in therapy but struggle to apply it in real situations
• are thoughtful, reflective and psychologically minded
• feel fatigued, disheartened or confused about dating
• want structured, psychology-informed guidance alongside or beyond therapy

Many participants join the programme:

• alongside therapy, to apply insights in real dating situations
• after therapy, when they want structured support putting learning into practice
• when therapy has clarified patterns but they want guidance navigating dating

The programme is not therapy and does not replace it.
For many participants, it works best as a complement to therapeutic work.

Who it isn't for

Find Your Person is not:

  • A crisis or mental health support service
  • A replacement for therapy
  • A programme for people who are currently:
    • In an abusive or unsafe relationship
    • Feeling acutely overwhelmed, highly distressed, or emotionally unstable around dating
    • In the middle of a major personal crisis where dating work would be too much

In those situations, more individualised or therapeutic support would usually be more appropriate first.

How to Refer

Referring is simple. There is no formal referral process required — just whatever feels most appropriate for your client. The easiest way is to:

• Share the waitlist page so your client can register interest in the next cohort

Find Your Person - Waitlist Page Here

You could also:

• share the FULL PROGRAMME PAGE if they want more detail
• suggest the FREE GUIDE as a gentle starting point if they’re earlier in the process

There’s no obligation, no referral tracking, and no pressure — just appreciation for helping the right people find their way to something supportive and well-held.