You've Done the Work. So Why Hasn't It Changed Anything?

Find Your Person is a 6-week live group programme for professional women ready to close the Insight-Action Gap — the real reason knowing hasn't been enough.

Designed by a Clinical Psychologist with more than 15 years of experience in behaviour change — and her own decade of dating patterns to work through.

The next group begins 28 October 2026. Enrolment is open now.

Early Bird Pricing runs until midnight 8th October. 

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The Real Problem

You might recognise this.

You understand yourself well. You reflect, you analyse, you already know roughly what you're "meant" to do differently.

And yet dating still brings:

  • Saying you're fine with things you're not, then feeling strangely annoyed at someone who never actually knew
  • Second-guessing your own instincts, even when they turn out to be right
  • Emotional highs and lows that feel confusing, or out of proportion to what's actually happened
  • The sense that you're trying hard, and somehow still not moving forward

This isn't because you're doing it wrong. It's because knowing isn't the same as doing — and nowhere in your dating life so far has shown you the difference.

Why Knowing Hasn't Been Enough

You've done the work. So why hasn't it changed anything?

You're not new to this. You've been to therapy. You've read the books. You've had the 11pm conversations with a friend that somehow always end the same way — "I know this is my pattern... I still don't understand why I keep doing it."

Here's the part nobody tells you: understanding a pattern and interrupting it are two completely different skills.

You can spot it beautifully — in hindsight. One problem is that no red flag looks the same from person to person, and often it doesn't even feel like a red flag in the moment. Honestly, you think you're choosing differently this time. The other problem is that once you're invested, and faced with a mix of the good and the bad, your autopilots kick in hard. And whatever decision you thought you'd made to catch yourself gets overridden as it's happening — by chemistry, confusion, or your head persuading you that this is different.

You see, more reading gives you more ideas, maybe a language to explain what's happened. More journalling gives you more insight. Even therapy, brilliant as it can be, can help you reflect — slow yourself down. None of that is a knowledge gap. You already have the knowledge. It's an execution gap — the space between knowing your pattern, catching yourself inside it, and knowing what to do instead, while it's still your choice.

We call this the Insight-Action Gap. It's the real reason "I know this about myself" hasn't turned into "and so I did something different." Not because you didn't try hard enough — because nowhere in your toolkit so far has actually helped you to practise catching it live and given you an alternative.

That's the gap Find Your Person is built to close.

Emma, FYP Group

"I used to date based on emotion — reacting with panic or uncertainty to other people's actions. Identifying my protective patterns and values helped me finally break habits I'd been stuck in for years. Now I'm much more conscious if I'm going too fast, performing, or creating intensity too quickly — and I can stop that happening to myself. That's been a real game-changer. I'm driving how I want things to go now, and that feels really nice. I couldn't have done this without the course — I'm really glad I joined."

Introducing Find Your Person

A 6-week live group programme built to close the Insight-Action Gap — the space between knowing your pattern and catching yourself inside it, while it's still your choice.

You'll get clear on your strengths and values, understand the protective pattern that's been quietly running your dating life, and — the part most approaches skip — practise catching it live, in real time, with real support around you while you do.

It's not about changing who you are. It's about dating from your healthiest, most grounded self — the one who's there underneath the pattern, not a different person you're being asked to become.

Structured. Supported. Built to fit inside the life you're already living, not instead of it.

Em, FYP Group

"Using the values-based questions in a real dating situation was spot-on. For the first time, I felt secure enough to be open and direct. I feel so much more able to have honest, difficult conversations in dating — even if it doesn't work out, I know I'll be okay. I used the tools in real-time, and it genuinely changed how I approach dating."

What's Inside

 

The Programme

Six live group coaching sessions, run weekly, where you'll get clear on your strengths and values, understand your protective pattern, and — the part most approaches skip — practise catching it live, with support around you while you do.

What Comes With It

Everything you need for the six weeks — and beyond.

Your Dating Compass

Your complete guide to the six weeks, with optional extras to go deeper.

Two Voicenote Coaching Opportunities

Two private coaching moments for direct, personal feedback.

Healthy vs Unhealthy Chemistry Checklist

A practical tool to spot Red & Green Flags faster.

WhatsApp Community

A peer-led space to stay connected between sessions

Meet Your Group 

An optional welcome call for a relaxed first look at the group.

Sharing & Listening 

A short guide to getting value from the group, however you engage.

Bonus: 1:1 Diagnostic Call 

For the first three to enroll. A 30 minute diagnostic call with Dr Kate Sherratt to identify your primary Protective Pattern so you start week 1 already clear. 

Find Your Person Participant

"The group was hands down the most valuable part. It accelerates the learning — you can spot patterns in other people much quicker, then realise you do that too. It's so validating — you're not the only one."

LJ, FYP Group

"The structured content and short audios made it easy to actually apply the tools in real life."

The Programme at A Glance

Each week builds on the last, combining reflection, practical tools, and real-life application — so insight turns into change, not just understanding.

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Sophie, FYP Group

"I really enjoyed the pace and the gentleness — it felt like gentle self-discovery at a safe distance from actually dating. I loved how well-structured everything was, and there's material there you can access for months afterwards. But the biggest thing — 'you accept the love you think you deserve.' I'd thought about that for years, but now I truly understand what it means. I'm not going to settle for what I believe I don't deserve anymore. This programme really solidified that. Would I recommend it? Yes, definitely. Big time."

ÂŁ300-ÂŁ600

Two dates a month...nothing to show for it?

Even a modest dating pace — two dates a month — puts you somewhere in the £300–£600 range over three months, before a dating app subscription (often £25–45 a month on top).

ÂŁ500-ÂŁ600

One skill, sharpened. And the thing that actually keeps you up at night? 

You could expect to invest £500–£600 for a single day of CPD at work to sharpen a skill. What's a fair investment in something that touches almost everything else — your closest relationships, your day-to-day confidence, how hopeful you feel about the years ahead?

Early Bird

ÂŁ350

Enrol by midnight Thursday 8th October - 24 hours after the free Masterclass.

Standard

£397 from 9th October. 

Enrolment closes midnight 20th October.

Group begins together 28th October.

Curious why? See  FAQ 'Why isn't this available all year round?'

Covered by our 14-day guarantee either way.

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Who You Become

This isn't a promise that the pattern never shows up again. It's a promise that you catch it — while it's still your choice, not after the fact.

"There's something wrong with me. I should have sorted this by now."
becomes
"I know what I do. I'm not surprised by myself anymore."

"I have to get this right, or I'll ruin it."
becomes
"I don't have to be perfect. I just have to notice."

"I know this is my pattern... I still don't understand why I keep doing it."
becomes
"I noticed myself doing it — and I chose differently."

You go from the smart woman who somehow can't get this one thing right, to the woman who sets the agenda for her own romantic life. Calm and grounded, rather than swept along by whatever the moment throws at you. Trusting that if you caught it this time, you can catch it again next time too.

Find Your Person Participant

"I had a lot of insight, but I was stuck - this helped me to actually move."

Who This Is For / Not for

Find Your Person is a warm, practical, psychology-led approach — not gimmicks, games, or anxiety-fuelled dating strategies.

This is for you if:

  • You end up saying you're fine with things you're not — then wonder why you're months in and your needs aren't being met
  • You're good at this — chatty, easy to talk to, know how to hold a room. But if you're not feeling like your most polished self, you'll cancel the date or just stop looking altogether, as if anything less isn't worth putting out there
  • If it starts to feel real, you find a reason it's not right — so you won't find out the hard way
  • Three dates in, you're already picturing the future — then gutted for weeks over someone you barely knew
  • You show up ready to fix whatever's off — his nerves, his mood, the awkward silence — before you've even worked out if he's the one who should be earning that effort
  • You understand attachment in theory. It's translating it into the moment that keeps not happening

This isn't about rules, scripts, or being told who to date. It's about building internal clarity so you can make grounded choices without constant second-guessing.

It may not be right if:

  • You're looking for guarantees or quick fixes
  • You want intensive therapy or crisis support
  • You're not ready to engage with dating at all right now

LJ, FYP Group

"I used to minimise my wants and needs and ended up stuck in relationship loops. This course helped me realise it's okay to be honest about what I need — and to trust myself when I do."

Sophie, FYP Group

"There's definitely a tendency to believe that you're the only single person in the world… and that's not true."

Find Your Person Participant

"I know a lot of the theory, but I'd got stuck in shame and stopped dating altogether… This helped me rejoin the human race."

If it helps to hear me talk this through

If you’ve come to this page through ads or emails and are still deciding, I recorded a short audio to help you think it through calmly.

Optional Audio
4:37
 

 

You don’t need to listen to this to join — it’s here if it’s helpful.

FAQs

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Trying the programme safely

I want you to feel able to join Find Your Person without pressure.

Fourteen days covers your welcome call and your first two live sessions — enough time to actually feel whether this is right, not just imagine it from the outside.

If you enroll and, within that window, decide the programme isn't the right fit, you can email me and receive a full refund — no justification needed.

This gives you time to:

  • access the materials
  • get a feel for the structure and tone
  • decide whether this way of working feels supportive and right for you

After that point, places are committed so the group can stay contained and well held.

Hi - I'm Dr Kate

HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist and a former “why-is-this-so-hard?!” dater.

I understood the theory — I'd studied it for years. But understanding it and applying it in the actual moment were two different things. I got drawn into intensity, ignored my own needs to keep things smooth, and only saw the early signs of misalignment once I looked back. Slowing down, and learning to catch my own patterns as they happened, changed that.

Find Your Person is built from that intersection — solid psychological principles, lived experience, and the practical, in-the-moment skill I wish someone had handed me.

I created Find Your Person to offer the kind of grounded, ethical, and steady guidance I wish I’d had myself. Through both my clinical work and my own experience, I’ve seen how partner choice can genuinely enhance your life — or quietly create stress, stuckness, and self-doubt.

That’s why this programme isn’t about strategies that override your instincts, push you to perform, or turn dating into another self-improvement project. It’s about building clarity and self-trust, so your dating life can grow out of who you already are — not who you’re trying to become.

I believe that’s how life-enhancing partner choices are made. 

You may have heard me on Dr Marianne Trent's Psychology, Actually podcast, or talking about overgiving in relationships on Self Worth School with Rosie Milsom — or catch me on Dr Audrey Tang's Wellbeing Media Studios dating series this December.

→Watch and Listen here.

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If this feels like the right next step

You've read this far because something here is speaking to you. That's usually not nothing.

The next group begins 28 October 2026. Enrolment is open now, and early bird pricing runs until midnight, Thursday 8 October.

Covered by our 14-day guarantee either way.

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