You're smart, capable and self-aware.

So why does dating still feel so hard?

Find Your Person is a 6-week, psychology-grounded programme for women who are tired of overthinking dating and want a clearer, steadier way forward — without turning it into a second job.

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The Real Problem

You might recognise this pattern:

You understand yourself well.
You reflect, analyse, and try to “do it differently”.

And yet dating still brings:

  • repeated disappointment

  • second-guessing your instincts

  • emotional highs and lows that feel confusing or out of proportion

  • the sense that you’re trying hard but not moving forward

This isn’t because you’re doing it wrong.
It’s because insight alone isn’t enough — especially in a dating culture that rewards ambiguity and drains clarity.

Introducing 'Find Your Person'

A 6-week programme that helps you uncover your strengths and values, gently update unhelpful dating patterns, and create a dating plan that actually works for you.

It’s not about changing who you are — it’s about dating from your healthiest, most grounded self.

The programme is structured, supportive and designed to fit into real life. 

What Changes?

Over the course of the programme, women notice shifts like:

  • Less second-guessing

  • Clearer attraction and filtering

  • More resilience after dates - even when they don't go as hoped

  • Dating that feels intentional instead of draining

Women who’ve completed the programme describe feeling more grounded in their judgement, clearer about healthy attraction, and more confident having honest conversations — helping dating feel more intentional and hopeful.

This isn’t about doing more — it’s about relating differently.

 

 

What You'll Get

6 Weeks of Live Group Coaching -

Clear structure, supportive pace, no pressure to overshare

Supportive WhatsApp community -

Optional, warm, and grounded — connection without overwhelm

Step-by-Step Psychological Roadmap -

Short audios, practical tools, realistic experiments that fit real life

 

 

“The structured content and short audios made it easy to actually apply the tools in real life.”

LJ, Find Your Person

The Programme at A Glance

Each week builds on the last, combining reflection, practical tools, and real-life application — so insight turns into change, not just understanding.

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Who This Is For / Not for

Find Your Person is a warm, practical, psychology-led approach — not gimmicks, games, or anxiety-fuelled dating strategies.

It’s for thoughtful, emotionally aware women who want dating to feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded, rather than getting stuck in familiar cycles.

This programme is for you if:

  • You get swept up in chemistry, intensity, or fast-forward dynamics

  • You’re confident and capable at work, but dating still feels like guesswork

  • You often start grounded, but months in realise your needs aren’t fully met — or you’ve lost a bit of yourself

  • You tend to over-prioritise others and under-prioritise your own needs

  • You spot red flags in hindsight, rather than early on

  • You understand attachment in theory, but struggle to apply it in the moments that matter

  • You want dating to feel steadier, clearer, and more paced

  • You want to express yourself honestly and communicate your needs without self-doubt

This isn’t about rules, scripts, or being told who to date.
It’s about building internal clarity so you can make grounded choices without constant second-guessing.

It may not be right if:

  • You’re looking for guarantees or quick fixes

  • You want intensive therapy or crisis support

  • You’re not ready to engage with dating at all right now

If it helps to hear me talk this through

If you’ve come to this page through ads or emails and are still deciding, I recorded a short audio to help you think it through calmly.

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You don’t need to listen to this to join — it’s here if it’s helpful.

FAQs

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Your Investment

The investment for Find Your Person is ÂŁ300.

This reflects the full 6-week live programme, including:

  • weekly facilitated group calls

  • structured, psychology-informed tools and resources

  • opportunities for reflection, discussion, and real-life application

  • the added value of learning alongside others — including hearing different perspectives, dilemmas, and ways of working with the material

This round is being offered as a Founding Member cohort — building on a successful pilot and remaining intentionally small while the programme continues to evolve. Because of this, this run is offered within a Founding Member context, which won’t necessarily be repeated in the same way in future rounds.

A note on value

For context, ÂŁ300 is broadly comparable to:

  • around three or four private therapy sessions, or

  • several months on a premium dating app, without guidance or support

What’s different here is the combination of:

  • live psychological input

  • group learning and shared reflection

  • a clear structure for applying insight to dating in real time

  • materials you can return to beyond the six weeks

Many women find this reduces the emotional and time cost of dating by helping them recognise patterns earlier, make clearer decisions, and step out of situations that quietly drain their time and energy.

Optional additional support (introduced mid-programme)

Alongside the core programme, I’ll offer a limited number of optional Personalised Guidance sessions later in the programme for those who would benefit from tailored support applying the work to their own dating situations.

These will be introduced around the mid-point, once you’ve had time to experience the material. They’re focused on practical application and decision-making rather than additional content, and places will be limited so this support stays contained and responsive.

There’s no obligation to add this — it’s simply there if it would be helpful.

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Trying the programme safely

I want you to feel able to join Find Your Person without pressure.

If you enrol and, within the first 14 days, decide that the programme isn’t the right fit for you, you can email me and receive a full refund — no justification needed.

This gives you time to:

  • access the materials

  • get a feel for the structure and tone

  • decide whether this way of working feels supportive and right for you

After that point, places are committed so the group can stay contained and well held.

Testimonials

Here's what women who've completed Find Your Person have shared about their experience:

"I used to date based on emotion — reacting with panic or uncertainty to other people’s actions. Now I’m much more conscious of my own behaviour, and I’m driving how I want things to go. That feels really nice.”

Emma

“I used to minimise my wants and needs and ended up stuck in relationship loops. This course helped me realise it’s okay to be honest about what I need — and to trust myself when I do.” 

LJ

“I feel so much more able to have honest, difficult conversations in dating. Even if it doesn’t work out, I know I’ll be okay — and that confidence changes everything.”

Em

“I’m much more conscious now if I’m going too fast, performing, or creating intensity too quickly — and I can stop that happening to myself. That’s been a real game-changer for me.”

Emma

Hi - I'm Dr Kate

Clinical Psychologist, Dating Coach, and former “why-is-this-so-hard?!” dater.

Despite being someone who “should know this stuff” — a Clinical Psychologist with years of experience — I still found dating confusing for a long time. I understood the theory, but applying it in real-life moments was a different challenge.

I’d get drawn into intensity, ignore my own needs to keep the connection smooth, and only later realise the early signs of misalignment. Slowing down, understanding my own patterns more clearly, and dating in a more grounded, secure way changed everything.

Find Your Person is built from that intersection: solid psychological principles, lived experience, and practical steps that actually work in real life.

I created Find Your Person to offer the kind of grounded, ethical, and steady guidance I wish I’d had myself. Through both my clinical work and my own experience, I’ve seen how partner choice can genuinely enhance your life — or quietly create stress, stuckness, and self-doubt.

That’s why this programme isn’t about strategies that override your instincts, push you to perform, or turn dating into another self-improvement project. It’s about building clarity and self-trust, so your dating life can grow out of who you already are — not who you’re trying to become.

I believe that’s how life-enhancing partner choices are made. 

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Limited Founding Member Places

This allows the programme to stay contained and well supported. As a Founding Member, you’ll have access to:

  • A unique psychology-grounded programme designed for women just like you 
  • Resources you can keep for life
  • Support from a like-minded community
  • Exclusive discounts on future versions of the course
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