You're smart, capable and self-aware.

So why does dating still feel so hard?

Find Your Person is a 6-week, psychology-grounded programme for women who are tired of overthinking dating and want a clearer, steadier way forward — without turning it into a second job.

Designed by a Clinical Psychologist with more than 15 years of experience in behaviour change — and her own decade of dating patterns to work through.

The next cohort opens Autumn 2026. Join the waitlist to hear first.

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The Real Problem

You might recognise this pattern:

You understand yourself well.
You reflect, analyse, and try to “do it differently”.

And yet dating still brings:

  • repeated disappointment

  • second-guessing your instincts

  • emotional highs and lows that feel confusing or out of proportion

  • the sense that you’re trying hard but not moving forward

This isn’t because you’re doing it wrong.
It’s because insight alone isn’t enough — especially in a dating culture that rewards ambiguity and drains clarity.

Introducing 'Find Your Person'

A 6-week programme that helps you uncover your strengths and values, gently update unhelpful dating patterns, and create a dating plan that actually works for you.

It’s not about changing who you are — it’s about dating from your healthiest, most grounded self.

The programme is structured, supportive and designed to fit into real life. 

What Changes?

Women tend to arrive at this programme at slightly different stages — some feeling stuck and not yet dating, others already in the dating world but finding it isn't working in the way they want. The programme is designed to meet both.

Over the course of six weeks, women notice shifts like:

  • Less second-guessing their instincts
  • Clearer sense of what healthy attraction actually feels like
  • More resilience after disappointing dates
  • The ability to spot misalignment earlier — and act on it

This isn't about doing more. It's about relating differently.

 

 

What You'll Get

6 Weeks of Live Group Coaching -

Clear structure, supportive pace, no pressure to overshare

Supportive WhatsApp community -

Optional, warm, and grounded — connection without overwhelm

Step-by-Step Psychological Roadmap -

Short audios, practical tools, realistic experiments that fit real life

 

 

“The structured content and short audios made it easy to actually apply the tools in real life.”

LJ, Find Your Person

The Programme at A Glance

Each week builds on the last, combining reflection, practical tools, and real-life application — so insight turns into change, not just understanding.

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Who This Is For / Not for

Find Your Person is a warm, practical, psychology-led approach — not gimmicks, games, or anxiety-fuelled dating strategies.

It’s for thoughtful, emotionally aware women who want dating to feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded, rather than getting stuck in familiar cycles.

This programme is for you if:

  • You get swept up in chemistry, intensity, or fast-forward dynamics

  • You’re confident and capable at work, but dating still feels like guesswork

  • You often start grounded, but months in realise your needs aren’t fully met — or you’ve lost a bit of yourself

  • You tend to over-prioritise others and under-prioritise your own needs

  • You spot red flags in hindsight, rather than early on

  • You understand attachment in theory, but struggle to apply it in the moments that matter

  • You want dating to feel steadier, clearer, and more paced

  • You want to express yourself honestly and communicate your needs without self-doubt

 

"I used to minimise my wants and needs and ended up stuck in relationship loops. This course helped me realise it's okay to be honest about what I need — and to trust myself when I do."

- LJ,  Find Your Person

 

This isn’t about rules, scripts, or being told who to date.
It’s about building internal clarity so you can make grounded choices without constant second-guessing.

It may not be right if:

  • You’re looking for guarantees or quick fixes

  • You want intensive therapy or crisis support

  • You’re not ready to engage with dating at all right now

If it helps to hear me talk this through

If you’ve come to this page through ads or emails and are still deciding, I recorded a short audio to help you think it through calmly.

Optional Audio
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You don’t need to listen to this to join — it’s here if it’s helpful.

FAQs

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Trying the programme safely

I want you to feel able to join Find Your Person without pressure.

If you enrol and, within the first 14 days, decide that the programme isn’t the right fit for you, you can email me and receive a full refund — no justification needed.

This gives you time to:

  • access the materials

  • get a feel for the structure and tone

  • decide whether this way of working feels supportive and right for you

After that point, places are committed so the group can stay contained and well held.

A Calm Way to See What Changes

These are the words of women who've been through the programme

If you're feeling stuck, or not dating at all

For some women, the hardest part isn't dating badly - it's not being able to start again. 

"I know a lot of the theory, but I'd got stuck in shame and stopped dating altogether. This helped me rejoin the human race."

"It felt like a big, fat muddle… I'd question myself and never know what to do. This programme gave me clarity and a structure."

"I've been able to put clear steps in place for myself. I love this."

"I had a lot of insight, but I was stuck — this helped me actually move."

If you're already dating, but it's not working

For others, the issue isn't getting dates - it's what happens within them. 

"I used to date based on emotion — reacting with panic or uncertainty to other people’s actions. Now I’m much more conscious of my own behaviour, and I’m driving how I want things to go. ”

“Using the values-based questions in a real dating situation was spot-on. For the first time, I felt secure enough to be open and direct.” 

“I feel so much more able to have honest, difficult conversations in dating. Even if it doesn’t work out, I know I’ll be okay — and that confidence changes everything.”

“I used the tools in real-time and it genuinely changed how I approach dating.”

What tends to shift: recognising patterns as they're happening, making more grounded decisions, communicating more directly, stepping out of cycles that used to repeat.

What people say about the experience itself

""The group was hands down the most valuable part. It accelerates the learning — you can spot patterns in other people much quicker, then realise you do that too. It's so validating — you're not the only one."— Group Participant

"Identifying my protective patterns and values helped me finally break habits I've been stuck in for years." — Emma

"It feels really practical — you can actually apply it in real life. It's really quite clever." — Em

"I finally understand what 'you accept the love you think you deserve' actually means — and I'm not settling anymore." — Sophie

Hi - I'm Dr Kate

HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist and former “why-is-this-so-hard?!” dater.

Despite being someone who “should know this stuff” — a Clinical Psychologist with years of experience — I still found dating confusing for a long time. I understood the theory, but applying it in real-life moments was a different challenge.

I’d get drawn into intensity, ignore my own needs to keep the connection smooth, and only later realise the early signs of misalignment. Slowing down, understanding my own patterns more clearly, and dating in a more grounded, secure way changed everything.

Find Your Person is built from that intersection: solid psychological principles, lived experience, and practical steps that actually work in real life.

I created Find Your Person to offer the kind of grounded, ethical, and steady guidance I wish I’d had myself. Through both my clinical work and my own experience, I’ve seen how partner choice can genuinely enhance your life — or quietly create stress, stuckness, and self-doubt.

That’s why this programme isn’t about strategies that override your instincts, push you to perform, or turn dating into another self-improvement project. It’s about building clarity and self-trust, so your dating life can grow out of who you already are — not who you’re trying to become.

I believe that’s how life-enhancing partner choices are made. 

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If this feels like the right next step

You don't have to be certain. You just need to be curious enough to find out more.

The next cohort opens Autumn 2026. Join the waitlist and you'll hear first when doors open.

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