You’ve done the work — but love still feels confusing or out of reach
It’s time to break old patterns and build a secure, lasting relationship
Discover a psychology-informed dating strategy that helps you understand why you get stuck — and what actually changes it.
Without labelling yourself, over-analysing every message, or turning dating into another job.
Who This Is For
Find Your Person is a warm, practical, psychology-led approach — not gimmicks, games or anxiety-fuelled strategies. It’s for thoughtful, emotionally aware women who want dating to feel calmer, clearer and more grounded, instead of stuck in familiar cycles.
Women tend to come into the programme at slightly different stages - either feeling stuck and not yet dating, or already dating but finding it's not working in the way they want. The programme is designed to meet both.
It’s for you if:
- You get swept up in chemistry, intensity, or fast-forward dynamics
- You’re great at your job, but dating still feels like guesswork
- You often start off grounded, but months in you realise your needs aren’t being fully met or you’ve lost a bit of yourself along the way
- You over-prioritise others and under-prioritise your own needs
- You spot red flags in hindsight, not early enough
- You know about attachment — but struggle to apply it in the moments that matter
- You want dating to feel calmer, clearer and more paced
- You want to feel able to express yourself authentically and communicate your needs in a grounded, confident way
This isn’t about rules, scripts, or being told who to date.
It’s about building internal clarity so you can make grounded choices without the second-guessing.
There's a calmer, smarter way to date - one that brings better matches and better dates, without making dating your full-time job!
Join the Waitlist if you're looking for a way to:
- Date from clarity about what actually works for you — so you stop wasting time on connections that don’t lead anywhere
- Define your non-negotiables and spot misalignment early, without over-analysing or talking yourself out of it
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Stay present and authentic on first dates, so conversations naturally deepen
- Show up grounded and self-possessed from the start, rather than trying to get it “right”
- Stay emotionally steady and self-trusting when dating feels uncertain — because you can communicate clearly about wobbles and stay centred whatever the outcome
Introducing 'Find Your Person'
A 6 week programme that helps you uncover your unique strengths and values, gently update unhelpful dating patterns, and create a dating plan that actually works for you.
It’s not about changing who you are — it’s about dating from your healthiest, most grounded self.
What You'll Get
6 Weeks of Live Group Coaching -
Clear structure, supportive pace, no pressure to overshare
Supportive WhatsApp community -
Optional, warm, and grounded — connection without overwhelm
Step-by-Step Psychological Roadmap -
Short audios, practical tools, realistic experiments that fit real life
What Participants Say
People tend to arrive at one of two places. Here's what shifts for each.
If you've been feeling stuck, or not dating at all
Sometimes the hardest part is getting started again — especially when insight has turned into overthinking, or shame has quietly taken over.
"It felt like a big, fat muddle… I'd question myself and never know what to do. This programme gave me clarity and a structure."
"I know a lot of the theory, but I'd got stuck in shame and stopped dating altogether. This helped me rejoin the human race."
"I finally understand what 'you accept the love you think you deserve' actually means — and I'm not settling anymore."
"I've been able to put clear steps in place for myself. I love this."
If you're already dating, but it's not working the way you want
For others, the issue isn't getting dates — it's what happens once you're in it.
"I used to date based on emotion — reacting with panic or uncertainty. Now I'm much more conscious of my behaviour, and I'm driving how I want things to go."
"I'm much more aware if I'm going too fast or creating intensity — and I can stop that happening. That's been a real game-changer."
"I feel much more able to have honest, difficult conversations. Even if it doesn't work out, I know I'll be okay."
"I used the tools in real time, and it genuinely changed how I approached dating."
What people say about the experience itself
"The group was hands down the most valuable part… it accelerates the learning."
"It built so nicely — everything came together."
"It feels really practical — you can actually apply it in real life."
"You've put together something quite special and so useful."
Hi - I'm Dr Kate
Clinical Psychologist, Dating Coach, and former “why-is-this-so-hard?!” dater.
Despite being someone who “should know this stuff” — a Clinical Psychologist with years of experience — I still found dating confusing for a long time. I understood the theory, but applying it in real-life moments was a different challenge.
I’d get drawn into intensity, ignore my own needs to keep the connection smooth, and only later realise the early signs of misalignment. Slowing down, understanding my own patterns clearly, and dating in a more grounded, secure way changed everything.
Find Your Person is built from that intersection:
solid psychological principles, lived experience, and practical steps that work in real life.
Warm, evidence-informed guidance — without rules or scripts — to help you date differently from the inside out.
